With our living standards in general never being better I am often asked; why is it that mental health issues are now so common and on the increase? I believe the answer is actually quite simple: We are overloading our nervous systems to the point where the chemistry needed to help us feel happy, positive,…
Boost your self-esteem and confidence with this simple but powerful brain training exercise. “I am not good enough, I am unlikeable, ugly and I don’t belong”….I didn’t know it at the time but my mind was slowly being programmed with new poisonous brain patterns by the bullies I grew up with to believe that I…
“ I feel guilty if I sit down and do nothing,” is something quite a few clients tell me as they struggle with various forms of relaxing. Yet sitting down and relaxing is one of the most productive things we can do as it recharges our batteries. Without mental and physical energy we can overly…
“It still hurts,” he said twisting his wrist slightly at me to show me the swelling which had greatly reduced but was still an issue. My friend then went through the list of proactive approaches they had been doing to heal themselves after their fall about a month ago, it really showed their determination to…
It seems like we are always being told what to do. Parents, family and partners Teachers, bosses and peers Government, society, culture and religion Lay down some of rules we feel pressurised into obeying through the voice in our heads. That inner critic, that inner moralist which not only can put us down with self…
Mindfulness is simply switching your awareness from thoughts focusing on the past or future to what is happening in the present moment. You can become mindful in the present about feelings, emotions, thoughts, taste, touch, smell and what you can see and hear. For me mindfulness is liberating, not only is it incredibly easy to…
“I’m not good enough.” “Everyone is better than me.” “Why is everyone else more confident than me?” I think it’s easier for our self worth to take a battering now than maybe any other time in our history. We are bombarded with so many altered airbrushed images of perfection which distorts a realistic perception of…
“I believe it is time for a few tears and tantrums. Hard news hurts.” – Katie Hopkins. Outrage and debates raged this week due to Katie Hopkins blog and appearance on This Morning as she explained to readers and viewers that the obesity crisis needed some tough love. Children with weight issues needed to be…
It’s easy to see why people will do anything not to feel any negative or uncomfortable feelings. It doesn’t feel nice and as we are creatures of comfort the natural reactive response is to try and distract ourselves with something which does feel good. Food, alcohol, drugs, cigarettes, television and gaming are just a few…
“You need goals,” we are all told if we want to achieve or be more successful in life. “Without goals you will fail.” The answer to life seems to be goal setting but why are we so terrible at reaching our goals? Then logical reasoning suggests “you need more motivation, discipline and focus to…